We have approximately 70,000 thoughts each day that determine what we think, what we feel, what we say, how we react, what habits we establish and how ultimately we are perceived. These are just our conscious thoughts; we have seven times as many thoughts going on in our subconscious mind that we are unaware of until something pops into our consciousness.
Our beliefs have a strong effect on our self-esteem, which is the ‘picture’ we carry around about ourselves in our minds. Self-esteem is to do with identity, feelings of self-worth and values and relationships with others. If we receive positive messages, then we are likely to have higher self-esteem, and it therefore follows that if we receive negative messages, whether true or not, then we will develop low self-esteem.
Help to build self-confidence by focusing on your strengths, improving on any weaknesses and learning to like yourself. Think about the things that you like about yourself, including your skills, knowledge, behaviors and personality traits. Consider what has brought you success so far. Remind yourself of all the challenges that you have faced and overcome.
Are you: nervous around your boss/peers; shy or embarrassed when you talk to people; able to walk into a room of strangers and start networking; embarrassed to give constructive criticism to colleaguesand your boss; […]
How do you get people to engage with you when you’re networking?
I say in networking the best thing you can do is walk up. I think we know someone in common try and walk away when someone comes up and says that to you hopefully, you’ve done your research. So you do know that you’ve known someone in common but with LinkedIn, you can find out who knows who on anyone you want so how to start a speech first way with a question that matters to the audience.
Often we can see the reason behind our own cultural ways and habits, but others may not see them in the same way. The habits, words and gestures of people from different cultures may seem odd and confusing to us. We are increasingly working across cultures and we should be aware and respectful of each other’s norms and differing etiquette.
Answer the phone with a smile on your face. The smile can be ‘heard’ and you will sound happy and pleasant. If you are extremely busy and getting stressed with your work, take a deep breath before you answer the phone to calm you down and make you sound normal and not anxious.
Almost everyone gossips at some point. The most common definition of gossip is ‘any conversation between two or more people about another who is not present’, and if you have never been in this situation then you must be the only exception! Gossip is difficult to avoid – you have to be aware at all times as you could be dragged into gossiping innocently. You can reduce the likelihood that any gossip will be about you or your work by remaining professional…