Many of us have a fear of something – of rejection, of stepping out of our ‘comfort zone’, of failure, of being laughed at, of change, of taking risks, of not fitting in, of ‘going blank’ (especially when giving presentations), of not being worthy and so on.
The most important person you’ll ever ‘talk’ and ‘listen’ to is yourself! You can encourage yourself and be positive or you can criticism yourself, sometimes unnecessarily, and become negative. Constructive criticism is always good to listen to, whether it comes from yourself or someone else. I call the inner voice that criticisms you destructively the ‘negative gremlin’.
We have approximately 70,000 thoughts each day that determine what we think, what we feel, what we say, how we react, what habits we establish and how ultimately we are perceived. These are just our conscious thoughts; we have seven times as many thoughts going on in our subconscious mind that we are unaware of until something pops into our consciousness.
Our beliefs have a strong effect on our self-esteem, which is the ‘picture’ we carry around about ourselves in our minds. Self-esteem is to do with identity, feelings of self-worth and values and relationships with others. If we receive positive messages, then we are likely to have higher self-esteem, and it therefore follows that if we receive negative messages, whether true or not, then we will develop low self-esteem.
Help to build self-confidence by focusing on your strengths, improving on any weaknesses and learning to like yourself. Think about the things that you like about yourself, including your skills, knowledge, behaviors and personality traits. Consider what has brought you success so far. Remind yourself of all the challenges that you have faced and overcome.
You can manage your state of mind before you enter a room to make a great first impression, thereby creating self-confidence and being prepared for any meeting where you feel you need to influence and […]