You should always ask for feedback and welcome constructive criticism, because we all see ourselves in a certain way and as doing certain things but other people perceive us differently. It is useful to have feedback from others, to take their comments on board, think seriously about them and do something about them.
Each and every one of us needs to continually learn and develop if we want to be at the top of our game, lead fulfilling exciting lives, have the knowledge to teach our children, be successful and reach our goals. If we don’t learn something new then: ‘If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got’ (WL Batemen). There is also a saying: ‘you learn something new every day’.
Develop an attitude of unshakable confidence in yourself and your ability to reach your goals. Everything in this chapter is about building your ‘self-awareness’, ‘self-confidence’ and ‘self-belief’. You should now be absolutely convinced that nothing can stop you from achieving what you set out to achieve.
You need to set goals because: ‘If you’re not sure where you’re going, you’ll probably end up somewhere else!’
What are the goals that, on your deathbed, you will either be glad you achieved or regret not having achieved? You never regret what you do – you only regret what you don’t do!
The law of expectations says that whatever we expect becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. When we confidently expect to succeed or learn something from every experience and believe that good things will happen, they will. When we expect a negative outcome to a situation, then the outcome will usually be negative.